Wednesday, January 23, 2008

Pregnancy, Labour and CONFINEMENT - the ultimate!



I have been battling with motherhood since I left the hospital on 2Jan. Well, my pregnancy has been a total enjoyment, labour much as it is horribly painful with the never-ending (seemingly so) contractions but gosh, confinement was hellish. Everybody told me that confinement is gonna be tough but i never imagined it to be that tough. The smell of ginger and sesame oil filled the house and there are always the unending cuisine of liver, kidney and just loads of ginger in every plate of my food.

There is constant arguement about if I can drink water, bathe or even wash my hair. I compromised by NOT bathing for the first 5 days and only bathe in super hot and herb-smelling water in the morning coupled with sponge bath in the evening. Can you imagine bathing in super hot water in super humid singapore? It was worse than not bathing at all, trust me. I was not allowed to drink a drop of water but every single day is longan red date ginger tea and even my pee smelled of that! (oops! sorry..).

I had a difficult time and my poor mom also had a difficult time because i was constantly uncomfortable, upset and therefore unhappy. I do appreciate her and all her efforts but I cannot appreciate the works. These old wives myths ought to be crucified. Josh did not have it easy either because i was constantly complaining and having mood swings. There were days where I would just tear (mild post natal blues...i won't call it depression) especially when nadine doesn't sleep much in the night and makes me even more edgy and exhausted. It was exceptionally difficult when Josh has to go back to BJ alone in mid Jan, leaving me & nadine in Singapore. It was such a challenging period.

I would not have survived if not for my brother and sister in law..Roy and Iris. Together with their extremely adorable daughter, my little 6-mth old niece, Germaine, they dropped by nightly to check out me and nadine, making sure that we are comfortable. I drew strength especially from Iris' optimistic and cheerful disposition. Everything seemed almost 2nd nature to her. She is well apt to handle almost any tantrums issues i raised. From hiccups, breastfeeding, choice of diapers, nadine's damp naval and sleeping issues, she has a suggestion for EVERYTHING. She should really go start her FAQ website for parenting. She knows precisely where to get stuff from different baby shops and shopping mall. In short, she is unbelievable!

As I look back, I smiled. I am just thankful to the Lord that it is all over. It is quite amazing that I've survived...Truly, it is not how i started but how i end that matter. Pregnancy marked the start of my whole experience as a mom and confinement in my own definition marked the END of the whole pregnancy experience. After the whole confinement, LIFE really then began for me as mommy to little nadine.

The last 2 months have been INCREDIBLE. I thank the Lord for my mom and that I've overcame. Everything has settled in and we have established a kind-off routine for Nadine.

Counting my blessings each day as I watched her grow up to become more and more like Josh, myself and most of all the image of Christ. She is such a darling.

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